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The Intimate Bond of Trust – Relinquishing All Control

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When I tell people that I am a lifestyle Mistress they see images of shackled slaves in my dungeon. They assume that my desire to control means I take away every single human right from a male turning him into a useless groveling life form. The internet is flooded with femdom images of women torturing their slaves and fantasy stories that almost scare me.

I often wonder if I posted images of me sharing a glass of wine, kissing, hugging and just being affectionate with my slaves, if people would get the wrong impression. I notice that if I come across to playful during a dominant phone sex call that some men will easily forget their place.  They make the very big mistake of thinking I am like most women.

I am NOT like most women

I consider myself to be evolved, complex and naturally dominant. My desire for control is enmeshed with my feminine essence and sexuality. I don’t do this because I have a problem with men or to earn money. Although I am fortunate enough to make a living at what I love the reality is I’m smart, capable and able to do almost anything I want. If given the opportunity to make a living at being a slave and being control were an option would you take it?

One of the reasons I am able to have D/s relationships that have last for years is because of trust. My personal slaves have proven to be consistent and provide unquestioned devotion. There is no amount of money that can ever replace this. Even my poorest slave will save every single penny and go without things in order to do something for me. This is the epitome of devotion and romance for me. Or when a man does something he really doesn’t want to do just to bring a smile to my face.

Reciprocal Relationships

There is a huge misconception that women like myself expect men to subjugate themselves no matter what. Additionally you’ll read things online about safe words, negotiations and it would appear that the sub/slave really is in control. Although I will consider someone’s limits there is no way they will ever gain control. I’m just not interested in these types of relationships.

Professionally I enjoy working with novices to help them explore taboo fantasies. I will allow them to present a list of fantasies and as long as I’m ok with them I will orchestrate the perfect fantasy. I’m totally ok with this because I am a professional. But if someone tells me they want to give me control and signs up for an ongoing control program then the rules change. This doesn’t mean I won’t respect their limits or value what is important to them.

The men that submit to me on any level- online or in person trust me. They have studied me and have made an intelligent choice to relinquish control to me. Although I will attempt to push limits the reality is that no one can make you do something you really don’t want to. I have no desire in any relationships tat are not truly reciprocal. If we are compatible great. If we are not then we both move on.

The Things You Do For Devotion

The only way to truly achieve a femdom dynamic is to “really” give up control. The first step is YOU figuring out the things that help you move into sub space. This could be almost anything; foot worship, kneeling, getting fucked with a strap-on, chastity, dominant teasing, fetishes, erotic humiliation, etc. Whatever you do that makes you feel the most submissive. I will then use that to fuel my own desires for control. I want and need for you to be in that space, however it doesn’t mean I’m going to be your puppet. What it means is I will use this to get you into sub space and use it to my advantage. If I take advantage of you then it is for the benefit of the relationship. The more in sync we are with our dynamic the better for both of us. Even if our eyes never meet there is no reason we can’t have a mutually beneficial relationship.

Trust isn’t about giving up your privacy. This world we explore together requires us to be private and cautious of whom we interact with. Especially when we have loved ones and people who depend on us. Our intimate and sexual needs are a private matter between us. No one else needs to know. Trust is knowing that we can count on that privacy being respected and that we each do what we promise to do with the commitment we have made.

I’d love your thoughts on this in the comment section below. I’d love to know what you fear and what might stop you from exploring your sexual fantasies.

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aleXanderZ On November 5, 2014 | Reply

*Dear Goddess Natalie…*
*Your Natural Femdom approach on this subject…*
*of guiding & molding the slave into Your full Control…*
*is very Attractive and makes my inner (hidden) sub…*
*to really want to surrender to You on this Life journey…*

*In a crawling attempt towards You…*
*as Superior & Confident Goddess…*

*Humbly & Happily… but a bit scared to lose ALL Control…*
*Your swede sub… to become slave wannaBe… / aleXanderZ*

    Natalie On December 29, 2014 | Reply

    Thank you so much. Sorry for the delay. I’ve been very busy. Be sure to subscribe.

Gianna On December 3, 2014 | Reply

I am a novice in the Dom world and was looking for resources in orgasm control to use on my boy. Where can I go to look up different methods/techniques?

    Natalie On December 29, 2014 | Reply

    I am happy to help. Just post your questions here.

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