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The Birth of a Dominant Mistress – How I Became Goddess Natalie

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Becoming a Dominant MistressI get quite a few emails and calls where people ask me how I got started and why. Because I’m still young they find it hard to believe that I have been involved in female domination for over 10 years.  Although I’ve had lengthy conversation with some over the phone I decided to take a little time and write about my personal & professional life. I also welcome any questions in the comments area and I promise to answer all questions.

Growing Up Natalie

I am originally from Miami, Florida, however I have traveled and lived all over the world. As a teenager my parents moved us to Spain as part of an assignment my father had. This story would not be complete without first giving you a bit of background about my parents.

Growing up I knew our household was different than traditional families. My mother is a naturally dominant woman who I later learned believes in the practice if female supremacy. I later learned that she was a very well-known and skilled professional dominatrix. My father was cuckolded and very submissive to my mother. In addition to working he came home, cooked, cleaned and took care of the women in his family. I do remember a few men that were always hanging around that I later learned were my mother’s lovers or slaves. Although there was never anything sexual around my sister and I, I knew that we were very different. My mother often flew to NYC and DC “on business” which I later learned were professional domination sessions. She even had an apt in NYC and would stay for weeks at a time.

One early morning while my mom was out of town I went into their private bathroom because my sister was taking so long in our bathroom. Soaking in the sink was a metal chastity device. (At the time I had no idea what it was yet based on the shape I figured it slipped on a cock) I didn’t ask my father about it because I wasn’t supposed to be in their bathroom. My mother’s bedroom and bathroom were strictly off limits.  But my sister and I would sometimes sneak into our parent’s room and forage through their things. My mother had the most beautiful corsets, shoes, boots and clothes.  Yet in her massive walk in closet she had a chest that was always locked. Once my sister and I tried to pick the lock with no luck. My mother wrote a key around a waist chain and this key unlocked this chest. I’m pretty sure it also was the key for my dad’s cock cage.

Introduction to Fetish & Professional Domination

When I was just about to turn 17 my mother calls me from NYC and informs me that she had registered me into a very prestigious college. That fall I moved to NYC and began school. My mother still traveled to NYC often and checked up on me. I could talk to my mother about anything. My parents are hippies. Very free spirited and spiritual people.  I always knew my mother was heavy into Goddess worship. We grew up wiccan.  While I attended my mother and I really bonded during this time. She was always very adamant how men should treat me.  She taught us that sex was sacred and only a man who cherished and adored us should ever be allowed to touch or exchange body fluids (kissing, oral, etc.) At 17 I was still a virgin.  This doesn’t mean I wasn’t sexually curious but that I was raised to believe a woman’s body is sacred. I did allow a few guys (and girl) to go down on me and I taught a few lovers to bring me to orgasm using their hands. To this day I masturbate almost every day.

My mother suggested I get a part time job because living in NYC is expensive. Something to earn a little spending money and still have time for my studies. There was a girl in one of my classes who talked about doing fetish modeling and earning 50.00 an hour. I talked to her and gave it a try. Basically it was fetishist paying pretty young girls to pose while they jerked off and or took pictures. I was perfectly fine with this because they were not allowed to touch. In fact I fucking loved it. I love tease and denial even as a young teenager. I remember how these guys would get so crazy turned on that they would shake. I teased them even more and started ordering them NOT to touch their cocks because I was paid hourly and learned how to draw a one hour session into 3 and 4 hours of tease and denial.  But something much deeper was going on inside of me and it wasn’t just about the money. I ENJOYED teasing them and my natural dominant personality only made them want me more.  I was really slamming down some cash with regulars and I began to realize the power I had over men.

Over dinner one night I told my mother about my new job. I thought she would criticize me. My mother, although a sexy Domina was for all intent and purposes a feminist. But she smiled and had a long conversation with me about “the birds and bees” femdom style. In fact we talked all night. I was fascinated! She said she wanted to wait until I was old enough to understand and didn’t want to push her views on me. She could see that not only did I enjoy it but that it was innately part of me. The following weekend she took me to visit with “friends”. It was a very private fetish party. I met some wonderful people and through one of my mother’s contacts I began shadowing a professional dominatrix.  I was totally captivated and could barely keep focused on my studies.  Somehow I did manage to earn my degree and continue doing prodom sessions.

I had met a few clients through professional sessions that were really into Goddess Worship, sexual tantra and a more spiritual side of female domination.  I was fascinated by their conversation and began having these conversations with my mother. Once again she smiled and simply pointed me in the right direction. She introduced me to an older man, very wise, very submissive yet very powerful. He owned a mansion in south Hampton and agreed to allow me to stay in a cottage on the property. It was amazing. When he was in town we spent long afternoons and evenings, talking, playing and exploring. Through him I met others into what seemed like a cult. I was going to the city 4 days a week to do sessions but couldn’t wait to get back the island. Within a few months (and the help of slave M the older gentleman) I had a small stable of adoring slaves and no longer had to work.  My bills were paid, I drove wonderful cars and my bank account grew fatter. But I had also begun doing phone sessions on Niteflirt at my mother’s suggestion. She told me to never rely financially on a man even if I had 6 of them. To allow them to be generous but never be in a position to “need” them. That it would truly ruin the dynamic. As the years have gone on I have learned more about this and how right she is.

Becoming a Lifestyle Mistress

My family had moved to Virginia and I was now making regular trips south. I had a few slaves I had met in North Carolina and DC.  Something interesting that I’ve noticed, and I’ve traveled a LOT, is that there are so many wonderful lifestyle mistresses in the Mid-Atlantic region. I’m not sure why this is since we are lead to believe the south is so conservative. But there seems to be a huge underground collection of very kinky folks! I found myself spending more and more time in Virginia. I had so many regular phone/online slaves at this point that I could work from anywhere.  I was making really great money doing what I love to do whenever I wanted to do it.  During one of my trips to Virginia I saw an older house in the country, totally secluded, with some land. For years I’ve had kinky sexual fantasies about having a place in the country with lots of land and a barn. One day I will write about my sexual fantasies and the ones that have come true since living on “The Farm”.  I bought the farm and began renovation. I traveled back and forth for a while and then right after hurricane Sandy hit long island I decided to fully move. I love NY and still fly back every other month to visit with slaves and friends.

The past 2 years I’ve been restoring my old farm house and discovering new things about me. My mother taught us to garden and I grow most of my own organic fruits and veggies. Every weekend and sometimes during the week I have slaves & sissies come to spend time with me.  I do have a few local personal slaves that come over during the evening. I truly do live the life of a Goddess and I’m extremely happy with the course my life has taken. I get to do the things I want and I don’t have to go to a 9-5 job I hate.  I see my family more often and although I don’t “engage” with my mother in my kinky life I do enjoy having long conversations about the lifestyle.

Although I am an experienced dominant mistress when it comes to BDSM, fetish and role-play I admit that my main desire is control. I love getting into your head, understanding you and finding ways to yank your chain. I work very hard at creating passionate desire and dangling enough seduction to keep you focused. The men that take the time to learn about me and that truly invest in a relationship with me find something truly unique. Although I can be serious and extremely demanding I love to laugh, have a good time and truly enjoy the people I spend time with whether it’s on the phone or face to face.  Life is to short and too important for me to get caught up in anything that doesn’t serve my happiness.

Something my mother taught me which has taken on new meaning during different phases of my life is this….

When you own a man’s cock you own his world. To truly capture a man you must take a risk and find the things that sexually motivate him the most then do them better than anyone can.  Once he is enraptured you introduce things that bring him deeper into a state of subjugation. You decide when and how he derives pleasure. Orgasm control is by far the most powerful tool for a woman IF it’s used effectively. Once a man enters into your femdom dynamic he will do whatever it takes to please you.

It starts with being sincere
It starts with being sincere

It’s not for every man. It’s for a select few men that are intelligent, articulate and ready to plunge into the unknown because they understand that they have no choice. No matter how hard they try to walk away it’s a force so powerful that it lures them back each and every time. When they are ready they will begin to understand the level of commitment it takes to enter MY world and how very important this relationship is.  I too make a commitment, however because I’m very busy (and experienced) I often quickly move on from men who are not yet evolved enough to understand the number one key…

I am the key to unlock your deepest desires. You will never ever control me. Your only choice is to fully submit or walk away.  The ONLY way you’ll ever discover the longing you have inside, the ache that has been there for years unfilled is to truly relinquish control and to be committed to my pleasure. I am as generous as you are. Seduce my dominance and I will bestow a level of seductive creativity.  You might run from me in fear because you’re not ready but you will never ever forget me.

I enjoy intense play and protocol. Although I’m great at fantasy role-play and offer this over the phone as a service I prefer getting to know someone and engaging in a real dynamic.  I enjoy a man who knows how to spoil me, how to make me laugh, get me hot and stimulate my mind.  I love it when a strong man begs, pleads and truly relinquishes control to me. One of the reasons I love erotic humiliation is that it challenges us both. I am highly experienced in mental seduction IF someone opens up to me. I love a man who is willing to do whatever it takes to bring a smile to my face.

This is not solely about money for me, however I would lie if I said I did not expect my slaves and followers to be generous. Amazon gift cards, purchasing my pictures and audios are perfect ways to show me how very important I am. That my work and lifestyle are respected and honored by you. Even the man with very little money will find a way and that means more to me than anything. I am not financially dependent on anyone.  I make my living from phone sex, clever investments and the generosity of my slaves. They enjoy enabling me to live the life I love.

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I became and evolved as a naturally dominant Goddess because I not only believe it is the life I’m meant to live but because I love it. I love everything about it and I love teaching others how wonderful it is. I want each and every experience with me to be positive even if it is for a limited time. I want to be the woman you think about when you close your eyes and envision the perfect dominant woman.

The best way to approach me is to call me using niteflirt.  Have an open and intelligent conversation with me.  I want to ask questions and learn everything I can about you. I will then direct you and tell you what direct I think you should take. I am available for conversation, erotic fantasy phone sex calls (femdom, fetish, etc. no vanilla) and ongoing training which is more like a true mistress experience. I also offer something very unique with weekly programs or single assignments. This are often used as foreplay prior to a call. Imagine being teased days or weeks before release?  For those of you who are at work or your wife is in the other room I offer yahoo messenger sessions.

I look forward to our journey.

Goddess Natalie

cruelnatalie@gmail.com

 

 

 



Recent Comments

28 Comments

Slut Sean On August 1, 2014 | Reply

Wow, very insightful. Incredible approach to it all.

RandomPerson On August 2, 2014 | Reply

I enjoyed reading this post.

I had a few questions:
-Why did you stop in-person pro-domming?
-Is your sister also a Pro-Domme?
-Is the father you mention in your post your biological father?
-Do you sometimes pity men for their “addiction” to women?

    Natalie On August 2, 2014 | Reply

    1- I have a small collection of personal slaves that are generous. I prefer deeper more ongoing connections. Doing fantasy phone sessions and online gives me enough variety and its fun. How many people get paid to have a great time? lol I do. Some of my personal relationships started on the phone. It gave us a chance to really get to know one another.

    2- No but she is dominant. All of the women in my family are.

    3- yes he is my biological father. He and my mother have been married for over 30 years providing that femdom marriages work.

    4- Not really. I think that it is a smart man who understands the power of a woman. It might take him years to figure it all out and to be honest I love to see men act like fools.

Jim On August 2, 2014 | Reply

Do you have slaves wear chasity devices? If so what kind do you prefer? Do you have them sign a contract? How long?

    Natalie On August 2, 2014 | Reply

    all of my personal slaves wear them, yes. But I do have a few married slaves that can not. I prefer stainless steel devices because of the way they look. There is a company in China who has them very affordable http://www.ebay.com/sch/i.html?_kw=NEW+Stainless+Steel+Male+Chastity

    But every cock is different. Sometimes you have to try a few different devices to find the perfect one for your cock. the CB cages seem to be the most popular, however I hate the way they look.

Zenlover On August 2, 2014 | Reply

Thanks for taking the time to write this! I love learning, and your writing style is frank, intimate and informative. You are a gift.

    Natalie On August 2, 2014 | Reply

    what a beautiful compliment. Thank you for coming and saying so.

Takenaga On August 2, 2014 | Reply

Thank you for sharing your life with us. I enjoyed reading this very well written story.

    Natalie On August 2, 2014 | Reply

    Thank you. Its so nice of you to come by!

Philo On August 2, 2014 | Reply

I really liked the article, your dad was a very lucky man to be able to live that lifestyle, most of us are not so lucky.

For me to let go and be submissive is such a freedom, does the opposite happen for dommes? If you do it properly it is a big responsibility do you find that difficult or is it something that you relish?

    Natalie On August 2, 2014 | Reply

    That question there could actually be a small book. My nature is alpha. My parents raised in a way that encouraged me to be strong. I had some conflict growing up and people telling me I was bossy, mean, etc. So although different I do experience huge freedom keeping away from traditional conformity. It is a constant evolution of my spirit discovering all the facets of my nature and in others. Sometimes its difficult but I cherish and honor every leg of the journey.

richard On August 2, 2014 | Reply

you are a most interesting women. i would love to be under your control.

    Natalie On August 2, 2014 | Reply

    This is easily accomplished!

kenny On August 3, 2014 | Reply

Wow, what a profound and deeply inspiring life story, Goddess. Thank You very much for sharing such wisdom and insight. Best personal reflection that i’ve read in awhile. Thank YOU!

RandomPerson On August 4, 2014 | Reply

Suppose you have a potential slave who is enraptured by you.

Suppose he is also seeing another women, and the question of marriage comes up. Would it be dishonest of him if he enters marriage, knowing fully well that you would take precedence over his potential wife?

Put another way, would it be unethical for a man to get married AFTER he has begun serving you?

    Natalie On August 4, 2014 | Reply

    RandomPerson that is a very good question.

    I have married slaves right now. I have a few men who engage in ongoing training, calls, online who are in very committed relationships. As perfect as it would be to have a spouse who is into kinky sex the reality is few are. I could write a whole article on this and I just might soon. But for now I will say this….

    I don’t expect to be your entire world. You have your world and I have mine. Then we have OUR world. I may have certain expectations and you will have some limits. We find a way to make OUR world the best it can be and if we can’t then it means we may not be compatible for a relationship. We communicate and propose ideas. In MY perfect world I am the center of your universe but I have so many type of relationships that I’m ok with you fulfilling a small part. Does that make sense?

Knight On August 4, 2014 | Reply

What an amazing essay to tell about Your beginning as a great and elegant Domme. I’m glad I asked You here to write it so we can enjoy this beautifully written account!
Respectfully, I got afew questions:
1- would You meet a sub who after talking to You on niteflirt would love to personally serve You?

2- how important physical discipline to You ( whipping. Canning. Etc)?

3- how can I start a process to be a sub/ slave through email or phone?

Your style if writing are as elegant and beautiful as You are. Your pictures are amazing and gorgeous. You are a natural Dominant Lady.

Kneeling
knight

RandomPerson On August 4, 2014 | Reply

I will look forward to your article on marriage, and seeing dommes.

On a similar note: how do you feel about your slaves seeing other dommes?

What was your major in college?

What are the health insurance options for a self employed person?

    Natalie On August 7, 2014 | Reply

    hahahhaha wow health insurance?

    In my personal life if a slave is committed to me as his/her Goddess then I am the only one. I will make an allowance for married slaves under certain conditions. His wife isn’t controlling him, I am. Big difference.

    My major is business and marketing.

    I have health insurance 🙂

anon98 On August 13, 2014 | Reply

Dear goddess, you realy are a good writer! It was realy fun reading this! And you are so very much beautiful! I must say I wasn’t expect that.
I have two questions. Firstly, what was your father part in your life? Did he had part in growing you up or he just was like a house kipper? Did you knew that he is your mom’s slave?
Secondly, do you have brothers? If yes, are they were or they are now slaves?

    Natalie On August 21, 2014 | Reply

    Sorry I missed this anon. I thought I replied last week.

    Yes my father and mother are very close and amazing parents. They are your typical hippie types and we grew up pagan. I didn’t know that they were in a femdom dynamic until much later on (in my 20’s) but I knew that our family was just different. My father is highly intelligent and has a successful career. He does cater to my mother, always has and he is a naturally submissive and gentle man.

    But we never saw the sexual side of their relationship and why would we? Once I became involved in professional domination my mother talked me about female domination more openly. Today we act as if it’s simply our way of life. If you came to our family house over holidays it will seem like any other family dinner except the males are more attentive and they are cooking and doing the dishes, as they should.

    My mother and father are very comfortable in their life and know exactly what works for them. I don’t have any brothers but often wonder how that would have been and if they would have taught him differently.

RandomPerson On August 23, 2014 | Reply

Regarding female domination: supoose you have kids one day, and all of them are boys.
They are raised to be subservient to women. Then they all go and become cuckolds, and end up supporting women who go on to concieve from other men, so in the end you end up having no biological grandkids.

Would you be fine with that?

    Natalie On August 23, 2014 | Reply

    I don’t think my way is the only way. I’m ok with that. I created my world because it suits me. I have straight vanilla friends with kids and we are all fine together. They support me and I them. I really don’t ever see myself having kids. I don’t even see myself married or at least not in the traditional sense.

    But if I did have a boy I would raise him to value and respect women. When he was old enough I’d allow him to make his own choices. This is what my parents did. I didn’t become a Mistress because of my mom. She never pressured me or suggested. But when I showed a natural; interest she supported and encouraged me.

Teeny jeannie On November 8, 2014 | Reply

Goddess Natalie,
I am totally blown away by your writing. You seem to be a remarkable woman. I read your entirer blog and I am in such aw.

I am married 28 years the last 3 being HELL. I learned of my need to be submissive around 18 and use to drive into NYC to pay and play. I stoped cause I married and never give the life style much through . In the very late 70’s not many of my types around. And even fewer women who new that women were the superior being. my vanilla wife is in some way like you. She is very smart, holds two degrees and a masters, has made a name for herself in a mans world and is has never been beholden to any guy every.
I am something like your father. I have raised my two boys, keep our house clean, did the laundry, cooked all the meals, did the lundry, drove her to work many times, I wore the panties but never realized it until I met Goddess Josephine who just so happens to be from Virgina. She too live on a large farm running an
animal rescue. I stayed with her for a little over a year with her giving me assignments and talking via Skype and a phone network called LDC. She was the first best thing that had happen to me. I am so wanted ing to now call you. I am on the nite flirt network. I will look for you at once.
I hope I can meet your expectations as a married sissy/slave/submissive/ sevent who loves doing humiliating assignments.

Jeannie

    Natalie On December 29, 2014 | Reply

    You’re the third person that mentioned this Josephine who it seems was emulating my life. I contacted the company and had the sites removed. Turns out she did not live in VA. I do.

breatherboy On October 29, 2015 | Reply

Had read this previously, yet, was totally worth reading it again.

aka_ireland On October 30, 2015 | Reply

That was great read, Mistress Natalie. Also, a nice peek into your thoughts about how and why you relate to your slaves. A dominant/submissive relationship is a very unique thing. I’m married to the woman I love, and although she is generous in indulging in some of my kinks, to truly become submissive to her would spill over into other aspects of our relationship where neither of us want it to go.

I will enjoy reading, commenting, engaging, and hopefully exploring my sexuality with you.

Thanks,
Michael
aka_ireland

    Natalie On October 30, 2015 | Reply

    Thank you for coming by Michael. I agree. Its a very special thing. Few really tap into the whole dynamic of it all. They play at the sexual components only, which is cool but never really tap what its really about. It often leaves them longing and always searching for more. The realm of female domination has often been misunderstood even in the bdsm community.

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