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Orgasm Control- How Often Should you Cum?

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sensual dominationDoes the thought of  woman owning your cock and telling you when you can touch it excite you?

 

Below is a chart someone put on www.orgasmcontrol.com on the frequency of orgasm. It seems a bit extreme to me. What are your thoughts? Post them in comments below. According to the chart if you have a little dick you’re never going to cum. Although I believe orgasm control is necessary for ALL men, I think that motivation is the key and finding the right balance of denial and reward. Once you find out what makes that cock rock hard and can stimulate them like no other they will become addicted.  Keeping them on the edge is the key.

My favorite is to give them several days of edging with lots of teasing followed by NO TOUCHING but continue the teasing THEN give them task to do for me in order to earn orgasm.

 

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rufus On August 27, 2013 | Reply

i truly believe in orgasm control. my 10 day experiment with Goddess made me a better man. After only a few days of denial, i was already noticing a major change in my personality. i was more courteous to other drivers (especially females), i was calmer & becoming even more responsive , my devotion to Goddess was growing exponentially as each day flew by. i truly believe in orgasm control for the benefit of mankind. thank YOU Goddess xx

    Natalie On August 31, 2013 | Reply

    awww how sweet. I also very much appreciate you and your responsiveness. I look forward to the next round.

Cal35 On August 31, 2013 | Reply

Rufus’ comments lead me to believe that I, as well, could benefit from transforming my cock, balls and cum into the Goddess’ cock, ball and cum…it would be calming and perhaps center me more on what should count–the Goddess’ pleasure and well-being.

fandral On September 2, 2013 | Reply

That chart does seem a bit extreme, especially since I fall into the 0 orgasms a year range. I have found as I get older if there is no hope for orgasm, the desire for sexual activity decreases unless the teasing is near constant

    Natalie On September 5, 2013 | Reply

    I thought so too. I’d like to create my own chart. What would you put on it?

Dirty Wanker On September 6, 2013 | Reply

I’ve always had the fantasy of having my orgasms restricted to a certain number in a year. For me the fantasy always started at 25 for the first year (2 per month, plus one bonus). I do like the idea of factoring in cock size into the frequency, but I would combine that with a factor to measure the quantity and distance of an ejaculation.
A huge cock that explodes buckets across the room should be allowed many more orgasms than one like mine that is average in length and dribbles out the tip.

    Natalie On September 6, 2013 | Reply

    You have quite the imagination. lol I think all men/boys should have strict orgasm control and frequency should be based on performance and reward. Then again some men perform better under stress. I guess we’d have to see which works best for you. Do you lose interest after an orgasm?

      Dirty Wanker On September 7, 2013 | Reply

      Lose Interest is probably not the right term, but yes I become less submissive. Cum eating is one of my favorite fantasies….and I rarely follow through.

        Natalie On September 12, 2013 | Reply

        You may lose interest for a day or two but you’ll regain that sexual tension once you look at my pictures again. 🙂 I think cum eating should be required.

    John On August 23, 2014 | Reply

    I need long term. milking

fandral On September 6, 2013 | Reply

Hmmmm, that’s a good question. I would say no more than one orgasm a month, and perhaps that would depend on good behavior.

    Natalie On September 6, 2013 | Reply

    I’m going to ask you the same question… Do you become less submissive after an orgasm? If you were teased and denied for 10 days then permitted to orgasm would you still be on your best behavior?

fandral On September 8, 2013 | Reply

Probably not in the immediate aftermath. Its the nature of men, though I would be grateful for the allowed release. However, being a man, the urges would start up again soon enough……like less than a day, and we’d be right back to square one again.

fandral On September 8, 2013 | Reply

I should add to that last post, I wish I didn’t become less submissive after an orgasm. I think that’s one of the reasons I like orgasm denial is because once a man reaches orgasm, the desire for sexual gratification goes away for a while. Its kind of annoying, but its the nature of the beast.

    Natalie On September 12, 2013 | Reply

    This is true for most tease and denial guys. The enjoy the rush and the ongoing agony of sexual tension.

Dirty Wanker On September 15, 2013 | Reply

Funny that you mention your pictures, I am developing a collection of Goddess Natalie wank material.
And yes, I agree completely. All males should be required to consume every drop that drips out of their cocks.

    Natalie On September 21, 2013 | Reply

    I agree with you. Perhaps I need more material for you? lol

Celtic Queens sub On September 25, 2013 | Reply

Limited orgasmic release yes, 0 seems a bit daft. If you know you will never come, where is the motivation? Dirty Wanker says big cocks explode more cum… The amount you cum is a function of your prostate, seminal vesicles and the amount of stimulation and arousal you have, dick size is not a factor….. which is why I don’t see the relevance of dick size?

    Natalie On September 25, 2013 | Reply

    Very good point. I agree with orgasm control but not 0. When I hear of guys going months I cringe because I don’t think its productive or healthy. There is a way to stimulate and milk the prostate. For me its all about control but for some it turns into a fetish.

Cal35 On September 25, 2013 | Reply

I agree with Natalie, milking should be a strategy–promotes or does not harm health and is very symbolic of control. The stuff flows, but she literally ‘pushes the release button’ rather than having the slave control the shots (pun intended!).

Cal35 On September 25, 2013 | Reply

I have a strange question or idea to float: On the topic of milking, have you ever done or heard of a dom (or more realistically a team of doms) doing a ‘milking parlour’ (my term, my idea..for a video or a situation!) where the two doms line up two or more guy in milking position and milk them out (parallel to a cow milking parlour).
Thanks,

    Natalie On September 26, 2013 | Reply

    Actually I have but not in reality. I do milking as a form of maintenance. But I have this great fantasy in my head that involves a femdom village and there are semen bulls specifically for the purpose of collection. The dream/fantasy is quite elaborate. They are brought into a special room where they are placed on tables with legs open. We then have milk maidens who could be pretty young girls or pretty sissies. They are taught to tease heavily to produce massive swelling. Sometimes the cum is collected and others times it’s art of the health maintenance program. Remember these bulls are also used for providing pleasure so it’s important they stay drained and cocks in good health. WE don’t want them having premature ejaculations.

Cal35 On September 26, 2013 | Reply

Make the video or something close…lol! Need actors?

calarath On September 27, 2013 | Reply

For me the chart would allow one orgasm a year!? That’s just crazy. I can’t go a week without one. Also if I go to long, even with a lot of teasing, my sex drive goes way down if I am denied orgasm for too long.

    Natalie On September 30, 2013 | Reply

    Its why we opened it up for discussion. If you had to make a chart how you do it?

      KC On October 2, 2013 | Reply

      I think a chart would be specific upon the individual. Someone who masturbates 3x/day would have most difficulty if he was cut off cold turkey as compared to someone who cums 2x/week. The frequent stroker needs to be weened off stroking, trained. But as a generality, I’d say cumming more than 1x/month would be counterproductive since most of us lose submissiveness… unless we are tied, teased, & denied fairly soon after orgasm to help start the buildup of frustration once again. Well, for me anyway. Tons of teasing & porn might follow an orgasm to help us get hornier quicker, obedient, submissive. The threat of only 1x/year would keep me very motivated (with daily teasing & edging)! 😯

        Natalie On October 2, 2013 | Reply

        KC I agree depending on the individual. Every guy is different. Also some that are addicted to stroking may be able to go a few weeks but after that they are spanking the monkey and back to old habits. This is why chastity is good for most. The personal slaves I have now are in chastity and get to orgasm by reward only. Sometimes this is 2-3 times a month and other times only once. It all depends on their attitude and how they handle themselves once allowed to squirt.

Dirty Wanker On September 29, 2013 | Reply

So I have a similar fantasy. Only the village is run by a single Mistress….Goddess Natalie. And in this village the slaves are in constant competition to please Goddess. Only the finest bulls with the biggest cocks ever get to release. The Goddess supervises every orgasm that occurs in the village, she video records them, catalogs them and grades them.
There is a weekly circle jerk competition that takes place where the slaves in good standing are allowed to jerk off and show the Goddess their equipment and skill with their hands. Any slave that cums during this competition is immediately expelled from the village. Picture a small circular theatre, with Goddess in the middle, and raised couches ringing the center. Twenty or so slaves arranged on the couches, all fully naked all trying to impress the Goddess with their cocks, stamina, techniques, and perversions.
These cocks are have all been denied for weeks. Some of them glisten with gobs of spit from their male hosts (Goddess owns all of them), some are wrapped with two fists and jerked with articles of Goddesses clothing that have been won through some worthy deed. Most are leaking pre-cum that is quickly gobbled up by their male hosts. Some males apply clothespins to Goddesses cocks and balls, and slap and torture them with various devices. Some assume strange positions to show their flexibility and their ability to cover their hosts face with ribbons of hot dripping jizz if the Goddess were only to allow them to cum. Some of the males shove huge dildos up their asses to stretch themselves out in hopes that Goddess will fuck them.
All these slaves have a single objective in mind…pleasing Goddess Natalie….much as some other perverts do .

    Natalie On September 30, 2013 | Reply

    maybe you should write a story? I might write something this winter once I’m done gardening. I really got into it this year and I’m hooked!

      Cal35 On October 20, 2013 | Reply

      Natalie: You might switch from The Constant Gardener to being the The Constant Denier or perhaps The Constant Milker. Now you’ve got your titles!

Dirty Wanker On October 8, 2013 | Reply

Now that you’ve inspired me….I think I will. And I promise, no cumming until I finish!!!!

    Natalie On October 11, 2013 | Reply

    yeah yeah promises promises. I’m still waiting for you to sign up and give me complete control

Mark On December 2, 2013 | Reply

I like the idea of a woman owning and controlling my cock and orgasm. It is very exciting but I think this chart is way to extreme. Gives no incentive at all.

    Natalie On December 9, 2013 | Reply

    well you could always make another chart?

mikeod On December 8, 2013 | Reply

twice a month…

Bob On July 31, 2014 | Reply

My Wife/Keyholder has only allowed me one a month at the most the past 8 years. Now she’s extending them past 40 days often. She believes that males do not need to ejaculate that it will either be absorbed or come out naturally , by a wet dream. God I love her.

john_wants_bdsm On January 2, 2016 | Reply

I’d like to respond to Goddess Natalie’s request for suggestions on how this chart might be done better. I agree with the criticisms in this thread that ‘as I get older if there is no hope for orgasm, the desire for sexual activity decreases unless the teasing is near constant’, and ‘the amount you cum is a function of your prostate, seminal vesicles and the amount of stimulation and arousal you have, dick size is not a factor’. It seems to me that the problem with the way this chart is done is that it’s actually too male-centric, despite the fact that having just 2 ejaculations annually along the diagonal (and less than 2 for all positions to the left of the diagonal) seems too harsh. To develop a more female-oriented approach let’s start from what Goddess Natalie said originally: ‘motivation is the key and finding the right balance of denial and reward’.

So to re-do this chart I’d keep age on the vertical axis, but I’d put female satisfaction with the male on a scale from 1 to 10 on the horizontal axis. However, although I’d keep age I think the direction in which the recommended number of orgasms rises should be the other way round. An older man should be allowed more orgasms to ensure that he retains his sexual interest and intensity, as just explained. The present version of the chart is based just on an assumption about male needs, that younger males need to ejaculate more. But from a female perspective the opposite applies, younger guys will retain their interest even if denied for longer, and if necessary they can be milked without always needing the pleasurable reward of an orgasm. The existing horizontal axis is also male-centric in that it plays on a man’s own fears of sexual inadequacy. It imposes a penalty on small penis size to reinforce that sense of personal inadequacy. But even if this idea might appeal to a dominant woman too, she should be allowed to take into account all the factors that matter to her in male performance, and not just this one small aspect (sorry for the pun!).

So how would we measure female satisfaction with male performance from 1 to 10? For men who are married or who have a partner, his wife or partner can be asked to evaluate his performance from time to time. The frequency of evaluation would be reflected in the chart, so e.g. if he is evaluated every 3 months the chart can show the number of orgasms recommended over the next 3 months (rather than annually, as it is in the existing version). For subs who report regularly to a domme, or male slaves controlled by a domme, she can assess his performance. As discussed in the thread, how he responds to the reward of an orgasm now will influence how she evaluates him going forward, so individual differences in behavior or reactions are factored in to the process. What about single guys who don’t submit to a domme they know? Here’s a suggestion. The male can think of the 2 or 3 women with whom he interacts most, in his personal life and/or work. He can approach one of these, and without necessarily having to explain everything, tell her that he is keen to become a better person and so he’d appreciate some honest and frank female feedback on how he’s doing from time to time. She could then speak to the other women in the chosen group and then let him know their assessment. It could be quite funny if these women didn’t know his incentive to ensure a good evaluation! Just imagine their speculation on how these periodic performance evaluations actually seemed to lead to him being much kinder and more helpful and considerate towards them, and to him really trying his best to please them!

    Natalie On January 13, 2016 | Reply

    Thank you so much! I had forgotten about this little chart.

    Natalie On January 16, 2016 | Reply

    For some reason my replies are not staying here. Thank you for this. I had forgotten about that chart.

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